Not Everyone’s About That Swirl, Girl

A few weeks ago I watched the finale of a show called “Catching Kelce”. Real quick, the show followed NFL star Travis Kelce in his quest for love. He got to choose from 50 women, one from every state. After weeks of girl drama and anticipation Travis ended up picking a woman named Maya. A black woman from Kentucky. I WAS THRILLED! Being a mix girl that has dated a white athlete, jock what ever you want to call it, I was stoked. With the age old question  “Do you date white guys” by white men, this was a Hell Yes!! It was an interracial relationship created on a reality dating show, in a public … [Read more...]

The Things We Forget

As women I think we forget just how powerful we are. We forget how strong we are and how much control we actually have. Now I'm far from a feminist but I think we as women give a little to much away in terms of our self worth and how we allow others, such as the media, men and even other woman to change our opinions of ourselves or make us doubt ourselves. We forget how beautiful we are with our curves and soft spots or with our toned lean muscles. We forget how sexy we are, with our hair and makeup done and how we can communicate with just a look from across a room. We're even sexy in ways … [Read more...]

Dating In a World of Non Dating

Being 26 never married and single has never been so hard. I’m at a place in my life that I'm completely content in myself and who I am and ready for a partner, but dating is so fucking hard! I mean don't get me wrong, I know the difference between dating and hooking up. I can count on one hand my “hook ups”. Im talking about dating. Having conversation about beliefs and goals, going on dates, telling someone you like them without them blocking you and saying you got too clingy because heaven forbid you express how you're feeling. Im talking about REAL dating. When he leaves and says “I’ll call … [Read more...]

My Hair Routine

I love my hair but it is definitely high maintenance and hard to handle at times. Its been many years of trying to find a product that doesn't dry out my hair, make it greasy or have buildup, then I found the be curly™ line  by AVEDA. This product has changed my hair routine! I love my curls and fro and I have gone through everything to find something that meets my very, VERY  curly hair needs. I have done everything, from not shampooing my hair any more and just using conditioner to using specialty conditioners. I have even stopped using regular hair products all together and would just rinse … [Read more...]

Size = Happiness

My entire life I have never known anything other than being curvy. I have always been bigger and taller then most woman in my life. It didn’t take me long to realize this but I never associated it with something negative, until one summer  in particular. I was visiting my family in Minnesota. I was at my aunts cabin, standing in the kitchen in a floor length skirt and bathing suit top and my grandma came up behind me grabbed my little love handles and tummy and said “looks like someone needs a little lipo lipo”. I was 12. My size has been a topic of discussion ever since. Now I am far, from … [Read more...]

Race Charged Compliments? No Thank you.

It is no secret among my friends and family that I date white men(#swirllife).  What everyone doesn't know is that over the years, although I don't think twice about going on a date with a white guy, It is at the forefront of their mind more often then not that they are on a date with a black girl. I don't mind that you are aware of the fact that you are on a date with someone that isn't the same color as you. What I do mind are the racial charged comments or compliments that come along with it. They vary in severity in my opinion, from things that a guy may not even realize could be off … [Read more...]